Everybody Plays the Fool?

It's amazing when those signs stare you right in the face, but lust and loneliness make you numb to your deepest fears. Thirsty texts, salacious conversations all with someone that has probably not yet earned your trust. Nothing too bad, unless you catch those feelings. Oh yes, THOSE feelings. That feeling where you're looking at your messaging app and you notice that that text you sent at 8:30 pm hasn't be replied to and it 12:32am. Ahhhh yes, that feeling will make the proudest, most pompous individual either irate or sadder than the moment in My Girl(the movie) when homie got stung by all those bees. That feeling is when you let an individual in a tad too quickly. That person seems to be the polar opposite of your most recent ex, jumpoff, sugar daddy, or whatever you're into. And to you, that feels so damn refreshing. Just know that anything tastes good when you're thirsty.

That feeling is a b*tch. It's not necessarily love either. It's some convoluted ooze of love, lust, loneliness and thirst all wrapped into one. Not to get deep into the semantics of a situation, but I keep over hearing the same stories over and over and over and over concerning a man or woman, but mostly men that don't call nor text after the goodies have just been distributed for the first time. A hell of a coincidence don't ya think. You laid it down like a scene from Baby Boy or something. And he's seem to all of a sudden have the busiest day at work the next day. No texts, no calls, no voicemails, no tweets, no Facebook posts, no nada. But remember, just a couple days ago you were just exchanging messages ALL day despite you both slaving away at that 9-5. Walking away from your desk, hoping to come back to a phone with that blinking light at the top. Do remember that there is no boundary that can box thirst in. But for some, once that thirst is quenched, it is extinguished for the first and final time. It just beez like that.

What signs were missed? Did I let them in too quickly? There is no right or wrong answers, BUT if you're willing to allow bullshit to fly and still let a person share the most intimate moments with you, you deserve to have to deal with harsh realities. And since I have nothing but space and opportunity at the current moment, I will list some of the bullshit for ya. 

BULLSH*T that should not be tolerated

1. Exclusive late night contact - if he/she only contacts you around the time SportsCenter is showing the Top 10 plays, you may be getting played.
2. No contact with any of his/her friends - family is excluded from this article simply because I'm hoping you aren't bringing a new person around your family before you even know this person's middle name;  If he or she is into you, you will get invited to kick it with the friends. Friends normally hold more clout when it comes to relationship conversation than family.
3. Frequent mentioning of one's self - not too much to dissect here; caring equals interest aka asking about your day, life, work, etc. etc.
4. Empty promises - "I'm gonna come thru for a little bit and chill with you". Hell, it already sounds like a setup for a good night, but when that expected visitor doesn't fulfill their promise, what are you to do? Play Solitaire?

Moral to this episode is to not settle for less. If you're a habitual entertainer of the "aint shit-ness", well you low key deserve to stay in the dark and let the cycle repeat itself over and over. No more babbling from me. Just know your worth. Pleasssse, know your worth.

-CoolStoryIzzo

Time is of the Essence...

Do you know your purpose? 

Is that career you chose based solely on monetary benefit or do it gives you a sense of joy everyday? 

Do you treat people fairly or do you look out only for yourself? 

Do you tell people that you love them or do you get that awkward feeling and choose to skip the whole phrase entirely? 

Are you a good friend?

Are you petty? 

Are you a good mother/father? 

Are you a good son/daughter? 

Well are you? 

ARE YOU?

Do you tell friends or family that you love them?

Do you know what love is?

Do you confuse love with being comfortable?

Does love have to hurt?

Do you think you're in love?

Well are you?

ARE YOU?

Is there any right or wrong answers to those questions? Any answers startle you? Any answers make you want to change anything about yourself? If it does, make the change. Time is something we're not promised. I'm done rambling. Tell someone you love them today. It'll mean something to them. I PROMISE.

-CoolStoryIzzo